Moving Out?

[SLt_Siwak]

Okay, So Reality Just Kicked me in the face.

I have 5 years TOTAL Of university, so about 4.5 years left. I don't want to live at home for another five years. I really Really dont.

My mother and I were discussing it today, and she was jokingly saying "well ill buy you stuff to move out with for christmas" and I took her serious and said "well I was thinking about moving out in a year" then she was all upset, and so was my dad. I feel like a jerk. And She's not helping by saying "I would be very upset if you didnt stay till you were done University"

Meanwhile I'm going crazy because I want to do my own thing.:(

help...

[Squanto]

I think that your mom has the best intentions at heart here .. she doesn't want your studies to suffer because you'll be working (or more than you already are), and you can save whatever money that you ARE making for when you move out for good.

But I see your side as well, you're in University, you want to be independant .. you want to have the whole "college" experience .. going home to do laundry and go 'grocery' shopping in the cuppards .. LoL

you'll have to sit down and write a pro's and con's list, bring it to your 'rents, and have an all grown up conversation .. they have to realize that you're becoming an adult, wether they like it or not.

[WO1 Bwowny]

I want to move out as quickly as possible but i can't I don't have enough money and I have to pay rent at home soon and save up money for university because my parents won't pay for my first year. And right now i can't find a part-time job so I'm pretty much stuck.

[happypartyfuntime]

Well, as much as I'm sure you'll hate living with your parents forever, I definately reccommend doing it. If you don't have to worry about coming up with rent money, or grocery money, or whatever on top of being in university, it's great.

[Juice]

Well, as much as I'm sure you'll hate living with your parents forever, I definately reccommend doing it. If you don't have to worry about coming up with rent money, or grocery money, or whatever on top of being in university, it's great.
On some level, I would agree with you.

However, on a completely other level, I disagree. Living on your own while going to school allows one to learn to really manage one's money. When you have rent and bills and other such things to worry about, there is less money to blow away, and one must learn to manage one's money in order to be able to pay for next months rent, bills, groceries etc.

If all of that is paid for by your parents, then it's a bit harder for one to truly learn those skills before one is thrown out into the real world and expected to fend for oneself.

This is only my opinion, and I haven't experienced what it is like living at home while going to school, so it's purely speculative.

Take from this post what you will, I hope it serves some form of purpose.

If you really want to move out on your own, Jai, be sure to include in your argument to your parents that it will help prepare you for when you have to make it in the working world. That university will serve as the transition period to having to be completely on your own, fending for yourself. Make sure you capitalize on the fact that you will be close by, and that you will never be far away, but that it's time to let you go.

Good luck!

JB

[VanZeumeren]

Okay, So Reality Just Kicked me in the face.

I have 5 years TOTAL Of university, so about 4.5 years left. I don't want to live at home for another five years. I really Really dont.

My mother and I were discussing it today, and she was jokingly saying "well ill buy you stuff to move out with for christmas" and I took her serious and said "well I was thinking about moving out in a year" then she was all upset, and so was my dad. I feel like a jerk. And She's not helping by saying "I would be very upset if you didnt stay till you were done University"

Meanwhile I'm going crazy because I want to do my own thing.:(

help...

You'll have to leave home sooner or later. My parents were really upset when I left for university (not my brother though, he got to be the only child for three years) and then even more so when the aforementioned sibling left the nest. Most parents are saddened by this, it's natural. This does not change the fact that living on your own is a crucial part of becoming an adult. You'll truly be setting up your own, independent social network as well.

Accepting their advice and help when you move out makes the transition easier for both parties. Mum and Dad get to feel that they're useful and that their child will be alright, and you'll be smarter and well supplied.

[superbrownie]

It's inevitable that your going to leave the nest and no matter what age you are your parents will be sad to see you go. Don't be too worried about that too much. They know that you are getting older and that you want independence. They will get over the "upset" with time, but I think that's completely natural. I lived in residence and I saw a lot of really sad parents come and visit in the first semester but by the second semester, they realized that their "baby" was doing just fine and there were far and fewer weekend visits. Its a fact of life, don't stress and don't feel like you are being unreasonable or feel bad for wanting to get out into the world, your parents do understand deep down.

I don't know what you situation is whether you live with your parents rent free and how close you live to the school or what. But living on your own is so expensive, and when you have bills, groceries, car insurance, tuition, rent to shell out, it adds up QUICKLY. I had an awesome job this summer that paid handsomely but I still find it really expensive to live on my own. If I had stayed in Burnaby with my mom and gone to SFU I would NEVER have moved out till I was finished because financially it was more feasible to live at home. You can still have independence and live at home. The money that I would have saved I could have put towards a car, my own place for after graduation or a trip or whatever.

My cousin lives with my mom and he does his own thing she has no rules for him and he comes and goes as he pleases, has people over. Although he lives in the basement so he has his own "apartment" But he enjoys a really independent lifestyle. I mean if I had stayed my mom was fully prepared for our relationship to be a lot different than what it was when I was in high school, because I was embarking on a new part of my life and she recognized that things were different.

SB

[Maples]

It's the natural thing to live on campus whilst studying at university, and if anything, it's easy to argue that living in an academic environment will be helpful towards your studies, and really allows you to immerse yourself in a 'work hard, play hard' philosophy that will let you get the most out of your time.

Self-management is the biggest skill I have picked up at university, in terms of finance, academic organisation, cooking, washing, cleaning, ironing, etc. Basically all the things that you would either do limited amounts of, be helped with, or not have to do living at home (depending upon how your family organises the chores). It also gives you the chance to be your own person, and allows you to develop personally as for the first time you have complete responsibility for yourself and your actions.

[vies132]

It's the natural thing to live on campus whilst studying at university

Many Universities do not have most students living on campus because there is simply not enough room. They often live in houses or apartments a short distance away, but if your several blocks away and still need to commute somehow it isnt necessarily worth it.

[Juice]

Many Universities do not have most students living on campus because there is simply not enough room. They often live in houses or apartments a short distance away, but if your several blocks away and still need to commute somehow it isnt necessarily worth it.
I wouldn't go that far. In terms of saving money, sometimes the farther away from the university the better.

Rent close to university campuses is extremely expensie, because the people renting know they have a market for it, and know that students will pay for it. Sometimes going a fair distance away from the university brings lower rent prices.

JB

[vies132]

I wouldn't go that far. In terms of saving money, sometimes the farther away from the university the better.

Rent close to university campuses is extremely expensie, because the people renting know they have a market for it, and know that students will pay for it. Sometimes going a fair distance away from the university brings lower rent prices.

JB

Exactly, but then your not really "living in an academic enviroment".

[Juice]

Exactly, but then your not really "living in an academic enviroment".
Your environment is only as academic as you make it. You can be just as much of a slacker living on campus as off campus.

JB

[SLt_Siwak]

Exactly, but then your not really "living in an academic enviroment".

Well, UofWinnipeg doesnt have on Campus living so. yeah. And the apartments by the University are like 700 a month. So I laugh, and say NO. lol


Your environment is only as academic as you make it. You can be just as much of a slacker living on campus as off campus.

JB

I'll fully agree here, as my good friends lives almost right beside the school and she really doesnt go to her classes, she doesnt do her homework. she slacks off...full time.

[Pyro]

Your environment is only as academic as you make it. You can be just as much of a slacker living on campus as off campus.

JB

Actually, I was much more of a slacker when I lived on campus than I am now... Think about it, all your friends are right down the hall - why read when you can be kicking their behinds at Halo? As well, having a roommate (if you're stuck with double occupancy) also detracts and distracts from the study environment, especially if you have a desktop, and can't just do all your work in the study lounge (if one is available). For me, anyway, living off campus is more conducive to studying.

[Lt(N) Nancy McAleer]

Well, UofWinnipeg doesnt have on Campus living so. yeah. And the apartments by the University are like 700 a month. So I laugh, and say NO. lol.

I know it is hard to live at home, but my advice is save your money. Paying back student loans is NO fun, and unless you are independently wealthy you will likely go in debt to the tune of $20,000 or more (plus interest) :eek: just so you can have the fun of buying your own toilet paper. Or - your parents will end up paying for it one way or another, be kind to them and save THEIR money.:)

Wouldn't you rather buy a new car with that money? Or even put it toward a down payment on a condo or house when you graduate? Or if you really want to get rid of 20K, PM me and I'll give you my Swiss bank account number;)

[missy]

ahaha, wow.....So I've done the whole living your own thing and really, it isnt all that it's cracked up to be. I mean the freedom is nice and their are a couple of added bonuses but to be honest their isnt a lot of money left over afterwards to just have some fun with. But if you do move out, live with other people even though sometimes its hard to always get a long, it's wayyyyyy better then being alone all the time. I lived on my own and it really sucked. But yeah thats my advice, but dude ur in university, i would recomend staying home and focusing on studies. I moved back home so i could go to school!! lol

[Andy]

I have 5 years TOTAL Of university, so about 4.5 years left. I don't want to live at home for another five years. I really Really dont.

If you're as busy with school and cadets as I think you'll be Jai, you'll pretty much never see your family. (if my brothers and I are any consideration...)

[Flashman]

A requirement of my parents paying for university was that I move out. My parents are of the opinion that you don't get the "full" experience unless you move away from home. Well, here I am in residence, six hours away from home. I don't really like it. So far I've been home once every four weeks, which isn't all that much. Most people here go home every weekend or every second weekend, because home is much closer. That said, my next-door neighbor is from Alberta, and hasn't been home in three months.

I suppose the proximity one moves away from home is important. Personally, I miss my parents and girlfriend a little too much for this to be fully worthwhile. I spend more time missing them and counting down the days until I'm home again than I should. Oh well, only 3.5 more years to go.

[*KeLLoway.K*]

heyy,
so ya im in a situation right now where my parents are kicking me out.
Have any advice for me on what im going to do??

[J. Gleiberman]

heyy,
so ya im in a situation right now where my parents are kicking me out.
Have any advice for me on what im going to do??
Um you should contact CAS.

According to your profile you are 16.

PM for more details.

[flawless.gunner]

be glad that you have the choice to live at home or not... if i lived at home i'd be surrounded by former classmates who are all popping out baby after baby and i'd being going to CONA *shudders* the ridiculously small class sizes just aren't really worth it :) if only i could go to MUN *sighs*

[Sanders]

*sigh*
Yeah I'm moving out this weekend.
*shudder*
Luckily, it's only a block away.. (I took a kind of crappy place to be close to home)
lol
I am a LOSER

[BigGunz]

Yeah, I will probably either have to move to Montreal to go to McGill or Ottawa for University of Ottawa. Still half a year to go but, I must start planning ahead.